Overland are celebrating their 60th year of publication, so I’m really stoked that they’d include this toon in their new issue. They’re a top-notch literary journal and you should maybe, y’know, think about, y’know, subscribing?…….DO IT.
Hi! First of all, I want to let you know that I empathize entirely with feeling like a terrible person, to my core, and feeling hyper-aware of my “toxicity” seeping into my relationships. I would say “you’re not as bad as you think you are,” and mean it, but I know that people saying that a) doesn’t help, and b) feels somewhat insulting because they’re implying that you’re not thinking straight/at all.
There are plenty of options.
See a therapist. If you don’t/haven’t already, the idea of talking to a stranger about your problems can be daunting and intimidating. You’ll find, however, that therapy is the perfect way to talk about the things that you feel “wear other people down” without having to worry about wearing your therapist down. It’s their job. This is the most important thing to do if you’re feeling out of options besides self-harming.
Journal! Daily writing is the thing that’s gotten me through the toughest times. Writing tends to be cathartic if you’re honest with yourself in your writing. Letting go in your writing can take practice, but remember that you are not writing for anyone else. Write, and while you do, imagine you are emptying to worrisome/problematic/”terrible” stuff out of your brain onto the page.
Journal with positive intentions. In addition to the “pour your shittiness out onto the page,” kind of writing, write three positive things about yourself every day. They don’t need to be anything profound, and can even be as simple as “looked very put together today.” This process is something that forces you to evaluate yourself in a positive light, as opposed to the negative self-evaluation that you may otherwise be doing.
I’m honored you came to me to ask about this (makes me feel like I’m someone worth reaching out to). Feel free to come to me off anon to tell me the details of your situation — I may be able to give you more advice that is specific to your needs. Be kind to yourself. You’re awesome and you’re strong and you are doing the right thing by looking to help yourself recover <3
ALSO: go to killyouranxiety.tumblr.com, they have a better range of ideas that may better pertain to your current issues. Or maybe you do all the things I listed already and they’re not enough? Either way, killyouranxiety has a lot of resources. And I really do mean a lot.
"she died constipated" on my headstone
Or “she died as she lived: constipated” on mine
I am studying jewlery making for university, today i tried something new and made this brass hand necklace. For my assignment i hope to make some specially designed clasps for the back which might hold small things, but this is my first attempt.
i will be doing a limited run of these, please email me at firstname.lastname@example.org if you are interested
if i had a dime for everytime an adult man made me feel uncomfortable
24-year-old photographer Asher Svidensky recently traveled to west Mongolia with the intention of documenting the lives of traditional Kazakh eagle hunters, people who tame eagles for the purpose of hunting smaller animals.
With the traditions typically laying in the hands of the boys and the men, the biggest surprise throughout the journey was Svidensky’s discovery of a young eagle huntress, 13-year-old Ashol Pan, the daughter of an experienced eagle hunter. These stunning photographs symbolize the potential future of the eagle hunting tradition as it expands beyond a male-only practice.